4 Sex Positions That Guarantee Her Orgasm

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4 Sex Positions That Guarantee Her Orgasm

Blow her mind with these Earth-shattering sex moves


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As the classic comedy Clerks famously quipped, it’s simple for men to reach orgasm. (“Insert somewhere close and preferably moist; thrust; repeat.”)

But for her to reach the big O? Count the ways. According to the latest research published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, vaginal and clitoral orgasms are, in fact, separate sensations.
Don’t obsess over the source of her pleasure, though—just try something new. Interest in testing out new positions actually makes a big difference in her pleasure and her arousal, explains Jen Landa, M.D., Chief Medical Officer of BodyLogicMD and author of The Sex Drive Solution for Women.

Whether your goal is to give her a blended orgasm or target her G-spot, focus on vaginal pleasure or hone in on her clitoris, we’ve rounded up four positions that will help you perform like a pro in between the sheets.

For ultimate access to her clitoris, try: The Pretzel a.k.a. The Camel Ride

The sex position

How it works: Kneel and straddle her left leg while she's lying on her left side. From here, she should bend her right leg around the right side of your waist—allowing full access to her vagina. This position is an upgrade from standard missionary because this sets you up for deeper penetration and allows you to slow your roll.  "Most women find sex much more pleasurable when it's not just constant thrusting," says Landa. So spend some time exploring her body.  This setup gives you complete access to her clitoris for manual stimulation. But don’t feel limited to solely hands on fun. Try withdrawing your penis and, while holding the shaft with your left hand, rub the head against her clitoris. Start out soft and slow, then as you increase speed and pressure, reinsert once you’ve brought her to the brink of an orgasm.

For targeting her G-Spot, try: The Standing Dragon a.k.a. Crouching Tiger, Hidden Serpent

How it works: Position her on the edge of the bed, posing on all fours. As you stand behind her, have her arch her back so it lifts her butt upward. With your legs outside of hers, use your thighs to squeeze her knees together, which tightens her vagina around your penis. This position is ideal for G-spot stimulation and also gives you a great view of her curves.

For 32 ways to please your lover, check out The Men's Health Big Book of Sex.

For intensifying vaginal pleasure, you should try: The Flatiron a.k.a. Downward Dog

How it works: Have her lie face down on the bed with her knees slightly bent and hips slightly raised. For comfort, and to increase the angle of her hips, you can suggest placing a pillow under her lower abs. From here, enter her from behind and keep your weight off of her by propping yourself up with your arms. This position creates a snug fit—which intensifies her pleasure by making you feel larger to her. (A killer tip for you: You'll last longer in this position if you switch to shallower thrusts and deeper breaths.)

More from MensHealth.com: Spice Up Your Sex Life

The sex position

For optimal dual pleasure, you should try: The Pole Position a.k.a. Thighmaster

How it works: Lie on your back and bend one of your legs, keeping the other outstretched. Have her straddle the raised leg with a thigh on either side and then lower herself onto your member so that her back is facing you. From here, she should hold your knee and use it for support as she rocks up and down. "This position is great, because it's a lot like the reverse cowgirl, but with a twist," says Landa. Raising your knee allows her to rub against your thigh—which produces optimal clitoral stimulation, says Landa.

Still hungry for more sizzling sex positions? Then pick up a copy of The Men's Health Big Book of Sex for hundreds of ways to keep her satisfied and coming back for more.


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How to Touch Her Breasts

How to Touch Her Breasts

The best ways to caress all types of breasts. Plus, fun things to do with her nipples

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Breasts are like snowflakes. Every one is unique. And a bit mysterious—which is why you need to read 5 Facts You Should Know About Her Breasts.

Know the right moves for your girl's specific body type, though, and you'll have her melting in your arms.

Large Breasts: In a study conducted at the University of Vienna, researchers found that large breasts were about 24 percent less sensitive than small ones. "This is probably because the nerve that transmits sensation from the nipple is stretched," says Alan Matarasso, M.D., a plastic surgeon in New York City. Stimulate the outer sides of her breasts, just below the armpits, with your tongue or fingertips. Make flipping motions with your tongue and even experiment with light nibbling.

    Small Breasts: They're sensitive, but they can handle more motion because of their size. Use your palms to cup and gently bounce her breasts during sex.
    Droopy Breasts: Droopy breasts can be the least sensitive—not only are the nerves stretched, but they're compressed by the breasts' weight. Have her lie on her back; it'll cause her breasts to shift up and out, relieving the tension on the nerves and helping her focus on the pleasure.
    Surgically Enhanced Breasts: If done properly, implants won't interfere with sensation. But they will move differently. Concentrate on the surface of her breasts. Use your tongue to make circles that gradually spiral in toward the nipples.
    New-Mom Breasts: Her nipples will be tender, so focus on the breasts' undersides, which are frequently neglected. Gently cup and support her breasts. It'll feel nice to her after a long day of suckling.

What About Her Nipples?

These handy barometers of desire are simple to read: Up is "on," down is "off." But they're also thermometers, popping up when the weather's cold, like giant goose bumps. The nipples are important—in fact, for some women, you can induce an orgasm just by doing breast duty. But the sensitivity of nipples varies widely; handle with care.

    Large: Because they have more nerve endings, big nipples are often hypersensitive, so don't be too aggressive when applying pressure, Dr. Matarasso says.
    Small: The areola—the dark-colored circle that surrounds the nipple—is actually more sensitive than the nipple itself. Focus especially on the upper quadrant of her breast, between 10 and 2 o'clock. It's the most sensitive part of the bull's-eye.
    Inverted: One study has shown that 3 percent of women have innies. The cause: genetics. The nerve endings in breasts with inverted nipples are no different from those of any other nipples. "Often, women with inverted nipples may be more sensitive emotionally because they may feel that their nipples aren't normal," says Shirley Zussman, Ed.D., a sex therapist in New York City. Reassure her with compliments about her breasts. You can lure the nipples out if you're persistent with touching, kissing, licking, and gentle sucking.

How to Double Your Pleasure During Sex

Compliment her on how her breasts feel early in foreplay. According to a UCLA study, women unhappy with their breast size are 16 times more likely to hide their breasts during sex—and where's the fun in that? "Comment on her high responsiveness to stimulation," says Patti Britton, Ph.D., a clinical sexologist. "It takes the emphasis off of how they look." Then use these strategies to make the most of your turn-on type.

You're a Small Boobs Man
Men who like small-breasted women—and there are millions of them—are often seeking a more submissive, non-threatening partner, says psychologist Stuart Fischoff. Also, you may get the psychological hint that she’s not trying to compete with other women who have larger breasts, and therefore she’ll be loyal to you. Or maybe the very first girl you had a crush on had small breasts, and if she constructed your earliest example of what’s sexy, her memory may still lead you to find small-breasted women exciting.

To maximize your arousal, have her stretch during missionary-position sex, by straightening her arms above her head. Anything that makes her appear long and lithe will flatten her breasts and stroke your primal urges.

You're a Big Boobs Man

Some researchers have theorized that human breasts evolved to be so preciously pendulous because, well, they need to do the work a baboon’s backside does in attracting a mate. “Unlike a baboon, a human woman walks upright and needs to have her sexual attributes up front,” says sex therapist Michael Perry. So, in a sense, her breasts may be a frontal derrière. In fact, the visual qualities of the breasts and the behind aren’t all that different. “Also, men and women look for differentiation in their sex partners,” says Perry. We already bring flat and hard to the bedroom; we need something curvy, supple and bouncy to make us feel complete.

Put her on top so she faces you and let her do the bouncing. For a fuller experience, have her hold her breasts together and do the movement thing you’ve seen in the porn movies. Just be gentle and use plenty of lubricant; she’s not built to handle harsh friction up there.



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How to Have Dirtier Sex than You Ever Imagined

 How to Have Dirtier Sex than You Ever Imagined

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All sex is good sex—in the beginning. When your relationship is fresh, new positions or novel settings are enough to keep you both interested and satisfied.

But as the years pass, it’s all too common to find yourself stuck with a sex life worn edgeless by routine and complacency.
 Fortunately, things don’t have to stay that way.


 Here, sex and relationships experts offer some sound advice for cranking up the kink and adding a little—or a lot—of spice to your flat-lined sex life.

(And for the comprehensive guide on how to have hotter, more satisfying sex, check out How to Pleasure a Woman. You’ll find tons of inspiration for new things to try with your partner, along with step-by-step instructions on how to give her the best orgasm of her life.)

THE TALK

“One person’s wet dream is another’s wet blanket,” says Tracey Cox, a U.K.-based sex expert and best-selling author. If you pull out your new moves in the moment, her startled reaction may frighten you both away from dirty sex for another few years.

Here’s a smarter idea: Discuss your ideas and turn-ons before you hit the lights, Cox stresses.

Start the conversation over a glass of wine at dinner—or in some other setting where you’re both comfortable and relaxed, suggests Sadie Allison, a doctor of human sexuality and author of The Mystery of the Undercover Clitoris.

It might be easier to begin this talk with relatively tame fantasies or role-playing ideas—stuff that will ease you both into the idea of new experiences, Allison says. It may also help to ask her what she’s into first. That way, you’re making it about her desires as well as your own, she adds.

When it’s your turn to share, be positive and confident about what you’re into, Cox stresses. If you make a big deal about asking or you look terrified once you make the request, that could freak your girl out or make her nervous, she says.

Also, be clear that you’re not expecting this every time you do it—only once in a while as a change of pace.

“Most people can cope with doing kinky things consistently but irregularly,” says Cox. “Few want to do it every single session.”

Related: 1,580 Women Reveal the Kinkiest Things They’d Let You Try Tonight

And, above all else, don’t force things, Cox warns. If you’ve told her you’re interested in something and she says it’s not for her, putting up a fight won't change her mind. On the other hand, being cool with her refusal might lead her to rethink things and give it a shot.

THE PREP

Watching some porn or reading erotica together may help charge you both up and make it easier to discuss new ideas, Allison says. If that sounds weird, remember, Fifty Shades of Grey wasn’t a blockbuster book because dudes were reading it.

Chances are good your partner’s interested in this stuff even if she’s never discussed it with you. And it’s a lot easier to say “I like that” while watching or reading about sex than it is to describe your fantasy in detail.

Once you’ve agreed on some new moves to try, do your homework, Allison advises. Whether you’re trying anal sex for the first time or introducing a new toy into your bedroom, there are right and wrong ways to go about things. Knowing the pitfalls ahead of time is the easiest way to avoid them.

And unless your fantasies perfectly align, it may help to split your new sex initiatives into “his” nights and “her” nights, Allison recommends. Starting with her desires may be a good way to show her this is about the both of you, and may make her more enthusiastic when it’s your turn.

THE DETAILS

Kids are a kink-killer, so dropping them with your parents or getting away to a hotel for a night can help you and your partner disconnect from your distractions, Allison says.

(A hotel is also a good idea because new settings can ease your transition into new experiences.)

It’s also smart to set ground rules—how far each of you is prepared to go—and to establish a safe word, Cox advises. (Make your safe word something you would never say by mistake.)

This way, you can be sure you’re both enjoying yourselves and having fun without having to stop every few minutes to ask, “Are you cool with this?”

Related: The Risky Sex Trend More Couples Are Trying

In the end, remember that your relationship is more important than the experience you’re having in the moment, Cox says.

Give your girl a gentle hug and a kiss afterward, and tell her how much you enjoyed yourself. And, sometime in the next few days, talk about what you both liked—and what you didn’t—to ensure you walk away from the new experience feeling satisfied and willing to try it again soon.



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Happy Couples Are Having This Much Sex. How Do You Stack Up?

Happy Couples Are Having This Much Sex. How Do You Stack Up?>

    

You don’t have to get busy in the bedroom every night to keep a smile on your face—or hers. Couples who have sex more than once a week aren’t any happier that those who do the deed weekly, suggests new Canadian research.

In the study, people in relationships who had sex once a week reported greater overall happiness—and greater satisfaction with their partners—than those who had sex less often.



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But those who had sex more often than that didn’t receive any additional boosts of wellbeing.

Once a week seems to be the average frequency among established couples, says study author Amy Muise, Ph.D., of the University of Toronto Mississauga. So it’s possible that people may feel happiest when they think they’re hitting that benchmark, she says.

“People may also feel this is enough to maintain their intimate connection with their partner,” says Muise.

Related: How to Pleasure a Woman—Make Every Time Her Best Yet with This Ultimate Sex Manual

Now, there isn’t much science behind this study, as the participants simply reported their satisfaction.

Bottom line: While you may want to have more sex, having it a few times a week isn't going to make you any happier with your life—or with your partner—than if you did it once a week.

So if your schedules make it hard to get busy more than once a week, you don't need to feel like you’re dooming your relationship.

“It’s not necessary, on average, for couples to aim to engage in sex as frequently as possible,” she says



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5 Easy Ways to Make Her Horny

  5 Easy Ways to Make Her Horny

Want her to take the initiative next time? Put her in the right mood, and she’ll do the work for you.

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As a guy, you’re probably the one who initiates sex in your relationship. It’s not that your girlfriend isn’t in the mood, or doesn’t want as much sex as you do—you’re just the one who rings the dinner bell 99.9 percent of the time.

Why is that? “This comes from many things, but one of them is that women are afraid that if they step out of traditional gender roles, they won’t be seen, accepted, and appreciated as feminine being,” says psychologist and relationship expert Tracy Thomas, Ph.D. “It also becomes another area where she could potentially fail, and be rejected—and most women are terrified of being rejected.

 



But you can fix this, Thomas says, by creating an atmosphere in which she doesn’t feel like she needs to be perfect. “You want to get her in the mood—make her horny—but what does that mean?” Thomas says. “What you really want is to make her feel like it’s safe for her to let go, like she can surrender to her sexual desires.” (Want to know if she’s already aroused? Here are 5 Things That Secretly Make Her Horny.)

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Here are five tips to get her in the mood, so much so, that she’ll come onto you.

Start early

Seduction starts long before any clothes come off, notes relationship expert April Masini of AskApril.com. “Women are a lot slower to warm up, so if you start their engines early and often, you’re more likely to score later,” she says.

If you want her to be in the mood later, start foreplay (or, well, a PG-13-rated version of it) in the morning, before you leave for work. Don’t overdo it—the idea is to plant a seed in her mind and leave her wanting more, not annoy her with over-the-top romance while she’s trying to do her makeup. Keep it up throughout the day with a short, strategically-timed text message or phone call, and by the time you get home she’ll be ready to jump you.

Help her de-stress

This shouldn’t come as a surprise, but it’s hard for her to get in the mood when she’s under a mountain of stress. “When we’re under stress, we’re primarily designed to not seek out pleasure,” Thomas says. “It’s a survival instinct. Something is wrong, so we have to fix it!”

It sounds simple enough, but Thomas says the key is to help her de-stress in a constructive way—not just help her check off boxes on her endless to-do list. “If she says she can’t relax because she has to clean the bathroom, that’s not necessarily your cue to clean the bathroom,” Thomas explains. “It probably wouldn’t hurt, but once you’re done she’ll remember that she has to clean the kitchen, and so forth. It’s less about cleaning the house, and more about helping her see that a clean house doesn’t need to take priority over the relationship.” So pursue that track with her—you’re happy to clean up once you’ve had some quiet time with her.

Choose your battles

Arguments don’t make for a very sexy atmosphere (unless you’re in a movie), so would it kill you to just let it go? “Being right is sometimes the obstacle to being happy, and often the obstacle to romance,” Masini explains. “If there’s the potential for argument on the table, just ask yourself if this really is the hill you want to die on.”

Obviously, if you’re arguing about something important—such as your relationship—it’s another story. But if it’s just a heated discussion about politics, or world peace, or pirates versus ninjas, then giving in to her point of view, at least temporarily, will do wonders for keeping her in the mood.

Pick up on her cues

You want her to initiate sex more often? Don’t shut her down when she tries—even if her attempt is pretty half-assed. “The first time, or times, she initiates, she’s going to be nervous that you might reject her,” Thomas says. “For the most part, women are not used to being rejected when it comes to sex, so it’s really important that you do not, under any circumstances, give any indication that she needs to do it better, or initiate more often when she’s in the middle of initiating.”

It’s basic behavioral conditioning, Thomas explains: She initiates, you are super-positive about that, and she’ll do it again and again.

Make her pleasure a priority

Be generous in bed, and you will find that sexual success is yours, Masini explains. “She wants to feel good in bed, and if she does, she’ll want to please you—and have more sex,” she says. If you haven’t figured out what she likes in bed, you should make that a priority, stat! Luckily, it’s as simple as asking her, providing you ask her when you’re not between the sheets. “If you think she’s holding back, coax it out of her by opening the conversation when you’re not in bed,” Masini suggests. “That way, she’ll feel like the pressure is off.” Ultimately, your goal is to have as much sex as possible, Masini says. “It sounds stupid, but the more sex you have, the more sex you’ll have. It’s a lot easier for her to be in the mood to initiate when sex is a regular part of your lives.


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Why Women Love Bad Boys—and How to Be One

Why Women Love Bad Boys—and How to Be One

You're polite. Thoughtful. Considerate. And boring! But your rough side might rub her the right way







You know a rebel when you see one. And so does she.

In a recent Australian study, researchers discovered that men who ignore rules are more desirable to women.





“Nonconformity suggests qualities that women typically find attractive, like risk taking and assertiveness,” notes study author Matthew Hornsey, Ph.D. “It communicates authenticity, which in an image-obsessed world has become a rare and valuable commodity.”

Translation: Faking it won’t work. So read on to tap into your true rebellious side. More sex, hotter sex, so-adventurous-it’s-barely-legal sex awaits.

Related: How to Pleasure a Woman—the Complete Guide to Becoming a Master Lover!

Make Her Look

Walk into any bar on a Friday night, and you’ll swim in a sea of gingham.

Guys can be risk-averse: “We’re pack animals—we’re programmed to play it safe and follow the crowd,” Hornsey says. “But part of being an adult is knowing when to fit in and when to stand out.”

So rather than blend in with the rest of your wolf pack, reach into your closet for a look that’ll turn you into the alpha dog.

Your Rebellion:

Add one edgy item to every outfit.

For instance, start with a black blazer and a white T-shirt, says Men’s Health fashion director Sandra Nygaard, and pair them with slightly distressed jeans to create contrast and interest.

Other ways to apply this principle: Trade a wristwatch for a leather cuff. Mix a leather jacket with a dressy shirt. Pair boots with a suit, sneakers with dress pants, or dress brogues with jeans. And switch out your cologne for something with a more earthy scent, such as patchouli.

Related: How to Approach a Woman at a Bar

Come On a Little Stronger

It’s obvious when you secretly hope something better will come along. Take online dating: Many guys flirt for days if not weeks before finally making plans.

“Men cast a wide net on these apps and sites, but it’s not always obvious when they’re actually interested,” says Paulette Sherman, Psy.D., a psychologist and relationship coach. “Making a first move quickly shows that you’re assertive and confident.”

Plus, it sends a message that you’re not playing the field.

Your Rebellion:

Skip to the best part. Apps like HowAboutWe and Tinder are meant for meeting up instantly, so embrace them.

You might be surprised by how receptive she is, as long as you pick a safe, public place, Sherman says.

“It’s a relief to find out if there’s chemistry right away,” she says. “A man who drags things out can seem weak because his actions don’t support his words.”

Be straightforward in your pitch, and avoid a big-time commitment. Aim for confident with a dash of boldness. Try something like: “I want to buy you a drink. Tomorrow. You game?”

Related: 9 Ridiculously Easy Ways to Be More Confident with Women

 Lower Your Fear Factor

Men often play it safe because the potential for awkwardness and rejection is so high, says Paul Hokemeyer, Ph.D., a relationship and family therapist.

“When we experience fear, the primitive part of our brain causes us to steer clear of danger,” Hokemeyer says.

So treat boldness like a muscle you need to exercise as often as you do your quads, says Hornsey. “Practice being different. Let the potential for embarrassment wash over you, and eventually you’ll realize it’s okay.”

Related: What to Do When a Woman Doesn’t Like You

Your Rebellion:

Demonstrate fearlessness in ways she’ll never forget: Hop the fence some night to go skinny-dipping at the local pool, or have sex in your office after hours.

Even little moments can leave a deep impression, says MH sex advisor Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., who recalls the way a man once flirted with her on a plane.

“After we’d been talking awhile, he got up to use the restroom,” Herbenick says. “He took off his headphones and slipped them over my ears without even asking. It was bold and sexy, and it’s never left me. If I hadn’t had a boyfriend, I would’ve said yes when he asked me out.”

Declare War on Boredom

Most people are prone to falling into dating routines, says Dan Ariely, Ph.D., a psychology professor at Duke University and the author of Predictably Irrational.

That’s just the way we’re built. And over time, these outings become less satisfying.

“Our brains quickly adapt to things, and then we don’t react as strongly to the triggers. They become a form of white noise,” Ariely says.

But when you and your date are sharing a new experience, there’s a spirit of adventure that naturally makes you seem more excited, he says. And that positive energy could rub off on your relationship.

Your Rebellion:

Three words: restaurant bathroom sex, says Herbenick.

Related: How to Have Sex in an Airplane Bathroom and Other Adventurous Places

“Duck into a closet or bathroom with her and slip off her underwear,” she suggests.

There’s a good chance she’ll enjoy shaking things up. A 2013 survey by the sex info site Good in Bed found that 28 percent of women were bored in their relationships, and another 25 percent were on the “brink” of boredom.

If the restroom stall at Olive Garden fails to rev things up, you could go simpler: On your next airline flight, drape a blanket across your laps and engage in some playful fondling, suggests Herbenick, whose air travel adventures are apparently more interesting than ours.

See how close you can get each other to climax—without actually arriving there. Save that for the hotel room shower after you check in.



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The First Thing You Must Do in Bed

The First Thing You Must Do in Bed

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Check this off and it'll make the rest of your romp better





 Generosity for the win: Focusing on what she craves in the sack also increases your arousal, says research in the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science.

Researchers studied “sexual communal strength”—the willingness to meet a partner’s sexual needs—in long-term couples. Both parties filled out daily sex surveys for 3 weeks. Four months later, generous lovers  reported higher levels of daily arousal AND more desire for their partner than the less-generous couples.
 Try these tips to unleash your power where it matters the most—in bed! Check out The Men's Health Big Book of Sex.

"There's a lot of research out there that suggests giving to others is good for the self," says lead study author Amy Muise, Ph.D., of the University of Toronto, and that effect is even stronger with a romantic partner. Plus, Muise says, knowing you can satisfy your partner's needs is a major confidence booster.

But zeroing in on her desires at the exclusion of your own won't deliver the same outcome, says Muise. The solution: Aim for compromise. If you usually perform oral sex on her because she loves to incorporate it into foreplay, see if she's up for something you want, like shower sex or a morning quickie before work. That way you'll both feel accounted for, Muise says.




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7 Sex Positions All Lazy Girls Will Love

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7 Sex Positions All Lazy Girls Will Love

Sex is fun, feels awesome, and is an important part of a healthy relationship (or whatever), but sometimes it’s tough to get in the mood when you’re having one of those lethargic nights where you can barely move. That doesn’t mean, however, that a steamy tryst has to come off the table.  Here are seven sex positions that will get the job done while hardly requiring you to lift a finger.











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Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) can be passed on by contact with body fluids such as semen......

Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) can be passed on by contact with body fluids such as semen, vaginal fluids and blood. Some STIs can be passed on by unprotected genital contact and oral sex. Fingers, hands or sharing sex toys can also pass on certain STIs.
 

STIs can be a worry – but the good news is that you can reduce your risk by:

    Using condoms
    Limiting the number of partners you have – the more partners you have, the greater your chance of coming into contact with an infected person.
    Talking to your partner(s) about STIs and practicing safer:


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The Best Sex Positions For Your 30s, 40s, 50s, And 60s

The Best Sex Positions For Your 30s, 40s, 50s, And 60s

  

Like red wine and a fine cheddar cheese, certain things just get better with age. That said, you may not be able to pretzel yourself into the same sexual positions you could at 20. Or maybe you can, but not without some element of risk.

Maybe risk is part of the appeal. But if you're more concerned with safe sex—the kind that won't lead to embarrassing ER visits—here are some suggested sex positions for every decade of life.
 

Your 30s

About 25% of pregnant women experience pain around their pelvis, and roughly 8% are still dealing with it 2 years post pregnancy, U.K. research shows. This often springs from "sacroiliac joint pain"—a discomfort around your sacrum (located at the base of your spine) and the iliac bones (the two large bones that make up your pelvis), explains Isa Herrera, a physical therapist at Renew Physical Therapy in New York. As a result, many women in their 30s experience pain when attempting certain sexual positions. To avoid this pain, Herrera recommends an oldie but goodie: sex on all fours. "Since your hands and knees are on the floor or bed, it keeps your pelvis neutral," she explains.

MORE: 3 Best Sex Positions For Back Pain

Even if pelvic pain isn't an issue for you, sensitivity below the belt is common—especially if you've recently delivered. "Your nether regions will still be sore and tender, and your back may still hurt," Herrera says. She recommends a "spooning position," where you lie side by side with your partner, either facing each other or in the same direction. It's great for new moms who are still tender because it allows a woman to control the speed and depth of penetration, points out NYC sex therapist Amy Levine.

Your 40s

Cases of sciatica—pain in your lower back or hip that travels down through each of your legs—tend to first pop up in your 30s and 40s, according to the American Academy of Orthopedic Surgeons. (Try one of these 6 stretches that relieve sciatic pain.) The two best positions for this are, you guessed it, spooning and all-fours, both of which take pressure off of the sciatic nerve, says Natalie Sidorkewicz, a doctoral researcher at Canada's University of Waterloo who published a study on this very topic in 2014. But if you're feeling more adventurous, Herrera recommends “reverse cowgirl." Have your partner lie on his back, and sit on top of him with your back to his face. But “don't lean forward, which can aggravate pain," she notes.

MORE: 5 Reasons Why Sex Is Better In Your 40s

You can also try the "flatiron" variation of the all-fours position: Lie facedown, knees slightly bent and hips slightly raised (so your butt is in the air), with a pillow under your chest for support. "This keeps your spine neutral, which will help ward off pain," Herrera says.

MORE: 10 Moves To Tone Your Waist, Legs, And Butt—While Keeping Your Gorgeous Curves

Your 50s

Throughout menopause, the drop in estrogen may make sex more painful, thanks to dryness and thinning of vaginal tissue. You're also more likely to develop "pelvic prolapse," when a pelvic organ like your bladder drops from its normal place and pushes against your vagina, Herrera explains. Try a sitting position where you're facing your partner and perched on his lap, so you can ease onto his penis very gently. Once you're comfortable, you can control the movement to make it as rough or as gentle as you'd like. (Get your sex life back after menopause and beat weight gain with The Natural Menopause Solution.)

Another option is to lie on your back with a pillow underneath your hips and thighs to open up your pelvis and vagina for easier entry. (It also provides a little extra cushioning if your bones and joints are starting to get a wee bit achy.)

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Your 60s

About a third of men and women in their 60s suffer from osteoarthritis, according to the CDC. If that's the case for you, positions that put a lot of pressure on your knees or hips—like all-fours or cowgirl—are out, says NYC physical therapist Lynn Berman. "I try to encourage my patients to stand, which eases pressure on joints and also helps strengthen their bones," he says. Try standing with your back facing your partner as he enters you from behind. (Rest your arms on furniture for support and balance.)

If you're suffering from back pain—either from spinal osteoarthritis or a condition known as spinal stenosis—then your pain probably worsens when you arch your back or lie on your stomach. In this case, the missionary position with low-back support from a pillow is best, Sidorkewicz says. Straddling your partner works well, too, since you're controlling the movement. "Instead of using your spine to roll your pelvis, use your knees and hips," Sidorkewicz advises.


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