Solutions to Common Sex Problems

                                                                                                








  Sex should be a satisfying part of a marriage. But for some couples, common sex problems become a source of tension and arguments. Common sex problems can get in the way of the relationship, and some couples have even separated over them. You can, however, address common sex problems and try to resolve them before they destroy the relationship and get in the way of love. Of course, you must see a doctor for persistent physical problems with sex.
Although a sex therapist is sometimes necessary for bigger sex problems, there are ways you and your spouse can deal with common sex problems on your own together. Here are some common sex problems and their solutions-
One of you wants more sex.

Problem – Having different libidos is a common sex problem and one that most couples face. Usually, one of you wants more sex than the other. Perhaps, you even argue about the number of times per week you are or should be having sex.

Solution – This is an easy fix that requires a bit of compromise by both people. Discuss how many times a week would be enough for both of you, reach each other in the middle, and then start having that much sex. Even if you’re not in the mood, you should have sex, say couples experts. Once you get started, you’ll likely get excited and enjoy the sex, even if you felt tired or disinterested earlier.
Sex is getting boring.

Problem – After couples have been together for a long time, their sex life tends to ebb and flow. Every once in a while, things get downright boring.

You fall into a routine and the sex seems to always be the same old story.

Solution – Break out of your rut. Try something new. You don’t have to go crazy or anything. But you can change positions or try one you have never done before. Or you can spice things up with extra foreplay, sex toys, sexy lingerie, dirty talk, or a massage. Even something as simple as a romantic dinner beforehand can make the sex better. Communicating what you both want and how to make sex more exciting can boost your sex life all on its own.
One or both of you would rather not be naked.

Problem – Sex requires nudity, but people often lack self-confidence. Perhaps, after the wedding, one or both of you got a little bloated. Happiness sometimes help people put on the pounds. You might not want even your spouse to see you naked because you’re not happy with your body. Your lack of confidence prevents you from losing your inhibitions with your spouse and can get in the way of enjoying sex. If you’re constantly thinking about your pudgy belly, you won’t enjoy the moment.

Solution – Get over yourself. That is the solution, but it’s never that easy. Instead, you should try to tell yourself that you’re beautiful, listen to your spouse who is undoubtedly telling you the same, and try to improve – without obsessing – whatever it is that is bothering you. If you’d like to get more fit and lose some flab, you and your spouse might take up exercise together. You’ll be healthier, feel better, and then the sex will be twice as good.
My wife never reaches orgasm.

Problem – As most people are aware, women have a harder time reaching orgasm than men. Sometimes, it just doesn’t happen. This can make the woman disappointed with sex, while the man feels incompetent.

Solution – Sometimes, all it takes is a little extra attention to foreplay and the woman’s needs. Performing oral sex might help. But even additional romance and some extra hugging and kissing can do the trick in some cases. Still, even if she doesn’t orgasm, she still might enjoy the closeness and even rhythm of sex. Remember practice makes perfect, so keep on practicing. You’ll get it eventually.

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Anti-rape nail varnish? Pah. This just shows we still see sexual assault as a women's problem

ex is often thought to be satisfying and soothing. However, the reality is not always what you think. There could be times when pain during sex could ruin all the fun and make it impossible to reach an orgasmic climax. Here are some reasons that cause pain during sex in men and how to deal with them to last longer in the bed.

Here are few common causes of pain during sex for men and how to avoid them:

#1 Peyronie’s disease: Commonly known as erectile dysfunction or ED, it is a common cause of painful sex for most men. In Peyronie’s disease the scar tissue that runs along the length of the penis causes it to bend, making intercourse difficult and painful. This could be due to a trauma in the penis or a result of a genetic or hereditary problem. Here is how erectile dysfunction is diagnosed.

What you can do: Erectile dysfunction is a medical problem and would need expert help. However, some lifestyle changes like losing weight, keeping cholesterol levels in check, avoiding excessive alcohol can help deal with the problem, albeit marginally. Seek help from an urologist for this problem to enjoy a pain free sex life. Know what causes ED in people with diabetes.

#2 Tight foreskin: This condition is called phimosis where the foreskin of the penis is too tight to retract over the head of the penis completely. In another condition, called paraphimosis the foreskin is tucked behind the penis and cannot be pulled forward. Both these conditions could lead to pain during intercourse. Also, know that circumcision is not the only way to treat tight foreskin in children.

What you can do: Sadly, there isn’t much you can do in these cases to get relief from pain during sex. Going under the knife, to free the skin for some movement can help you get some relief.

#3 Prostatitis: This is a condition identified with inflammation of the prostate gland that results in swelling, pain or burning sensation during urination. The gland that is situated just behind the bladder also gives rise to pain during sex, usually while ejaculating. Here are 10 symptoms of prostate cancer that every man should know.

What you can do: Inflamed prostate gland is usually treated with some antibiotics and other medications as prescribed by the urologist. However, you can try a warm bath before sex or sit in a tub with warm water with your buttocks submerged. In case of an infection, get plenty of rest and drink lots of fluids. Make sure you are not seated for too long in one place, as it could make the symptom worse. Before getting into action take a little stroll to relax your gland a bit. Here are 10 symptoms of prostate cancer every man should know.

#4 Urinary tract infections: While it is thought that urinary tract infections are common in women even men suffer from its perils. Men suffering from UTIs often complain about pain or burning sensation during urination. Also, the penis emits a foul smell and it pains during ejaculation. Yeast infections could lead to itching or burning sensations around the tip of the penis.

What you can do: If you are suffering from any form of UTI make sure that you use a condom during intercourse as there are quite high chances of the infection to spread to your partner. Apart from that, ensure that you wash your penis thoroughly, before and after the act, especially beneath the foreskin. Drink plenty of water to flush out the bacteria from your system.

#5 Allergies: Some men might be sensitive down there. In such cases, soaps or creams that are loaded with fragrance and chemicals might lead to inflammation and itching on the penis. This is more common with men who are circumcised.

What you can do: Avoid using anything new on your genitals just before having sex. In case, a bout of inflammation or itching ruins the mood just before the act, try foreplay to keep the romance alive for the night. Don’t try to have sex until the symptoms subside or you get treated for the same, as it could aggravate your problem.

#6 Genital herpes: This is a type of sexually transmitted disease that can make intercourse painful and spread the infection rapidly. It is characterised with sore or pimple like lumps on the penis which is painful. Here are six common causes of herpes you should know.

What you can do: Well, if you are suffering from genital herpes you should not be having sex, not even with your condom on. Refrain from having sex till you get treated adequately by an urologist and a sex therapist.

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Jemima Khan and the problem of bad sexual etiquette

Jemima KHAN

 
 Jemima Khan once noted that George Galloway is “one of the finest orators in British politics,” and added that, had he chosen to make law his profession, he would have made “a brilliant QC, with his forensic, retentive mind and his ability to win an argument.”

Mandrake wonders if it was the Respect MP’s silver tongue which persuaded the daffy socialite to part with £20,000 in bail money for Julian Assange. Khan has since tried to distance herself from Assange, but, when I inquire, she declines to outline her present position on him. She is silent, too, on whether she concurs with Galloway’s assertion that Assange shouldn’t be facing charges of rape in Sweden, but merely the accusation of “bad sexual etiquette.”

Gold standard

Mandrake’s prediction in The Sunday Telegraph that the Princess Royal would name her new £500,000 yacht after a part of Scotland she loves has come to pass: Anne has plumped for Ballochbuie, a particularly picturesque spot on the Balmoral Estate where she loves to walk

She had named her last yacht, Blue Doublet, after the mount that took her to victory in the European Eventing Championship of 1971.
  Her daughter, Zara Phillips, would not have held out much hope for the yacht being named High Kingdom, the horse that she rode as a member of the Great Britain Eventing team at the Olympics.

The team may have picked up a silver medal, but that is, as Zara pointedly told me, a world away from gold.

A home match

Pete Reed, the gold medal-winning rower who proposed on bended knee to his German girlfriend Frauke Oltmanns at the Olympics closing ceremony, tells me that, given that the Games were held in Britain, he was happy to hold their wedding in her country.

“I did ask her if she wanted to have the wedding there, which I would have been more than willing to do,” he nobly informed me at the opening night of Carousel at the Barbican.

“Still, she said she wanted it here, so that’s where it will be. That is literally all we have decided on yet, though. That and the fact that we want to have the wedding this year.” Well, that’s a sta

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Health-care providers hold biases based on sexual orientation, study says

In the first study that looks at a variety of healthcare providers and their implicit attitudes towards lesbian women and gay men, researchers found there is widespread implicit bias toward lesbian women and gay men

The study, "Health care providers' implicit and explicit attitudes toward lesbian women and gay men," published in the American Journal of Public Health finds that moderate to strong implicit preferences for straight people over lesbian and gay people are widespread among heterosexual providers. Also lesbian and gay health providers expressed implicit and explicit preferences for lesbian and gay people over straight people. Bisexual providers were found to have mixed preferences, mental health providers held the weakest implicit bias for heterosexual people over lesbian and gay people and nurses held the strongest implicit bias for heterosexual people over lesbian and gay people.

In short, healthcare providers, similar to others in society, hold a bias for people who shared their own sexual identity.

Lead researcher, Janice Sabin, UW research associate professor in biomedical informatics and medical education, said that clinical care of the LGBT population is a somewhat neglected area in curriculum in nursing, medicine and other areas of healthcare education.

"We want all providers to be proficient in treating diverse populations, including the LGBT population," she said.

Rachel G. Riskind with the Department of Psychology at Guilford College in Greensboro, N.C., and Brian A. Nosek with the Department of Psychology at the University of Virginia in Charlottesville, were co-authors on the study.

Researchers used results from the Sexuality Implicit Association Test developed to assess presence of implicit bias towards either heterosexual or homosexual individuals. The test captured demographic data and implicit association test results for more than 200,000 participants between May 2006 and December 2012. Test takers were asked to indicate their explicit preferences towards heterosexual, lesbian and gay people by endorsing statements ranging from "I strongly prefer straight people to gay people to "I strongly prefer gay people to straight people." The study categorized healthcare respondents by their profession ¬¬¬-- medical doctor, nurse, mental health provider, other treatment provider or non-provider --to assess attitudes specifically from healthcare providers.

Test takers voluntarily accessed the Sexuality Implicit Association Test on Project Implicit, a non-profit organization founded in 1998 by three scientists -- Tony Greenwald (University of Washington), Mahzarin Banaji (Harvard University), and Brian Nosek (University of Virginia). Project Implicit provides a "virtual laboratory" for collecting data on the Internet in a mission to educate the public about hidden biases or thoughts and feelings outside of conscious awareness and control.

Sabin said, "training for healthcare providers about treating sexual minority patients is an area in great need of attention."

"For healthcare organizations that aim to serve these populations, these data suggest an opportunity to examine methods likely to mitigate implicit biases, such as eliminating discretion from decision-making, use of clinical guidelines, awareness of personal bias as self-caution, organizational policies that promote objective decision-making, and inclusion of counter-stereotypical experiences in educational programs," the authors conclude.

While this study found implicit bias among healthcare providers, Sabin said future research should examine how providers' implicit and explicit preferences toward sexual orientation affect delivery of care to members of sexual minority populations

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What are sexual problems in men?

What are sexual problems in men?

 Sexual health is an important part of a man's life, no matter his age, civil status, or sexual orientation. It is also an important part of a couple's foundation and contributes to the quality of life. Sexual problems in men are very common and impact sexual health. Many problems can be treated and therefore it is important for a man to discuss these issues with a physicians
The definition of sexual dysfunction is the inability to have a satisfactory sexual relationship. This definition depends on each person's own interpretation on what he judges satisfactory. In general, sexual dysfunction can affect the quality of life and, even more importantly, can be the first symptom of another medical or psychological problem. Any sexual complaint should be taken seriously and evaluated.

What is the physiology of sexual function?

Sexual activity involves coordination between various systems of the body. Hormones and neurological pathways must be in sync for sexual desire to be present. Blood vessels, nerves, and penile integrity must all be present for an adequate erection and its maintenance during the sexual relation. Muscles and nerves coordinate ejaculation achieved when the physiological passageway for sperm (from the testicles to the urethra) is present. Orgasm is a complex phenomenon that isn't completely understood but it involves the coordination of muscles and nerves. When sexual dysfunction is present, the physician must evaluate all the possible problems in this chain of events.

How are sexual problems in men diagnosed?

Evaluation of sexual dysfunction starts with a detailed medical, sexual, and psychological history, followed by a thorough physical examination. The second step must not be overlooked because sexual dysfunction can have many causes. Sometimes, the patient's partner can also contribute to the evaluation and could provide useful information as well.

A detailed medical, psychological, and sexual history is acquired during the interview with the physician. Some of the questions that are asked can be intimate and might cause you to feel shy to answer thoroughly. It is imperative to give the proper information, even though it is understandable that it can take time to be comfortable talking about this. Having a good relationship with your physician is always helpful.

Some of the questions the doctor could ask might concern the frequency of sexual relations, your sexual orientation, if the frequency or quality of sexual relations are satisfying, and your number of sexual partners, among others. They will also inquire about nonsexual-related complaints.

A complete physical examination is performed including assessing the pulses in the legs and a thorough examination of the external genitalia (penis, scrotum, and perineum) and their reflexes..

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