Top Ten Sex Tips for Men

 At any given second, 4,000 people are having sex in the world. So ‘knocking’ is the most happening or ‘rocking’ thing in the world. Sex is not all about doing it in the bed. The three attributes that can help you in building an effective relationship with women include - your caring nature, communication skills and your confident attitude. ‘Lusty talk’ during sex can help to stimulate women even more. Tease her and make her feel desirable and you are sure to give her orgasm even if your performance is below par.

1. If you sweat during sex don’t worry – sweating men ooze testosterone and it is a biological turn on for women.

2. During sex keep the room warm rather than cold. So maybe turn off the air-conditioner if necessary or turn it on low. Heat causes dilatation of blood vessels and more swelling of the penis and vagina and flushing of the skin. Heat makes you ‘flush during sex.’

3. If you want your girl to become pregnant make sure you give her a big orgasm. The chances of pregnancy increase because contraction of pelvic muscles during orgasm help the sperms move up the vaginal canal and fertilize the eggs.

4. If your girl has a headache and you have no pills available give her a big orgasm and this can relieve her headache. Sex is known to cure headaches due to release of morphine like pain killer substances in the brain called endorphins.

5. Big orgasm also requires you to indulge in some foreplay. Gently touching, stroking, sucking and licking your partners nipples, thighs, vagina and clitoris are sometimes enough to start the orgasm. Keep the big act for the end.

6. Stimulate her clitoris with your fingers by gently fondling with the area. Remember the sensory nerve fibers have the highest concentration around the clitoris followed by labia, and the outer third of the vagina.

7. Find her G-Spot – G-spot stimulation can give a woman a big orgasm. It is usually located in the front section of the vaginal wall between her vaginal opening and the cervix. Use finger to stroke the front portion of the vagina and during intercourse the best way to stimulate her G-spot is insertion of the penis from the back. If the G-spot and clitoris are stimulated simultaneously the woman is likely to have ‘one hell of a orgasm’ that she is unlikely to forget.

8. Early morning sex is also a great option if you are tired in the night. You can get extra help from the surge of Testosterone in the morning. Blood levels of testosterone are highest just before dawn and are 40% higher than in the evening.

9. Keep your ‘butt’ in shape - Buttocks of a man are the most admired part of a man’s body by women.

10. Age is not a factor for sex as much as it is for women. Studies show that even if you are over 70 years the chances of your being potent is over 73%. Actor Anthony Quinn fathered a baby at the age of 81 years.

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Secrets of Great Sex After 40

With a few minor adjustments, lovemaking after 40 can be the best of your life.

 My wife and I are about to celebrate the 42nd anniversary of our first date. We have a solid marriage, but like everyone, we’ve struggled with the changes aging brings, including those affecting our love life.

Intimacy after 40 doesn’t get the attention it deserves. The bad news is that the second half of life brings sexual changes, and changes are never easy. But here’s the good news: With simple adjustments, physical intimacy after 40, 50, 60 and beyond can feel as satisfying as ever—or even better—and deepen the love you share.

Age-related sexual changes begin between 40 and 50. These are women’s “peri-menopausal” years, when estrogen starts falling and periods become less regular. Many women also start to experience vaginal dryness, which can make intercourse uncomfortable. Fortunately, a personal lubricant is usually a quick, effective fix.

Meanwhile, between 40 and 50, most men start to experience erection changes. Erotic daydreams are no longer are enough to raise one. Men need direct genital fondling (with vigorousness increasing with age). When erections appear, they’re not as firm as they were back in men's twenties, and minor distractions may wilt them. This is not erectile dysfunction (ED). It's middle-age erection dissatisfaction. (ED means an inability to raise erections during sustained masturbation.) Still, to older men with erection dissatisfaction, those iffy, balky erections can be unnerving.

Upsetting as sexual changes after 40 may be, they make evolutionary sense. The biological purpose of life is to reproduce life. As women leave their reproductive years, there’s no longer an evolutionary imperative to continue reproductive sex, i.e. intercourse, so there’s no biological reason to make it comfortable through continued production of natural vaginal lubrication. Meanwhile, men can father children into old age, but until fairly recently in our species' evolution, few men lived beyond 40 and even fewer fathered children late in life. As a result, there was no evolutionary reason to preserve reproductive function past that age. Biologically, older men who no longer father children, don’t need intercourse—or the firm erections that make it possible. But these days, as age-related sexual changes occur, most older couples keep trying to have intercourse. Lubricants and erection drugs usually help … for a while.

After 50, sexual changes continue. Intercourse may become increasingly uncomfortable for women, even with lubricants, and even with drugs, many men suffer increasingly balky erections, and some develop ED. These changes make intercourse more problematic—and for many older couples, impossible.

Unfortunately, many people believe that sex and intercourse are synonymous, that if they can’t enjoy the old in-out, sex must be over for them. That’s a shame. Retiring from being lovers makes relationships less intimate and ignores the deep human need to experience gentle, sensual touch. Other couples decide to adjust their lovemaking to accommodate age-related changes. Doing so means evolving lovemaking away from intercourse and substituting more kissing, cuddling, whole-body massage, toys, and oral sex.

Recent studies show that older couples who remain happily sexual evolve their lovemaking away from intercourse. Two studies of thousands of men over 50 show that, despite extensive advertising and media hype, only about 10 percent have even tried erection drugs, let alone become regular users. Many older men figure: If I’m not having intercourse, I don’t need erections, so why take the drugs?

Finally, men don’t need erections to have orgasms. That’s right. Even with an older, balky, or even flaccid penis, a comfortable setting, vivid erotic fantasies, and a woman’s loving—and vigorous—caresses are enough to trigger climaxes that feel as enjoyable as ever.

My wife and I not about to let aging interfere with our marital intimacy. Change is challenging, especially sexual changes. But when older couples help each other through the transition away from intercourse, they often discover a deeper, richer eroticism—and love each other even more.

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Are you ready for sex?

  Are you ready for sex?

 
 
 
 
  Find out the 10 things you need to ask yourself if you're thinking about having sex.

Most people have sex for the first time when they're 16 or older, not before. If someone’s boasting about having sex, it’s possible that they’re pretending.

Although there's a legal age of consent, it’s not necessarily the right age for you to start having sex.

 There are no rules about how long you have to be going out with someone before you do it. Being ready happens at different times for everyone – don't decide to have sex just because your friends are pressuring you.

You can read this whole page or go straight to the sections:

    It's your decision
    Talking about sex
    10 questions to ask yourself
    Safer sex
    Lesbian, gay or bisexual couples
    How do I bring up the subject of safer sex?
    Read the signs that they want sex
    Alcohol or drugs won't help
    Sex and the law

Deciding when to have sex

You can always choose whether you want to have sex, whoever you're with. Just because you've done it before, even with the same person, doesn’t mean that you have to do it again.

Working out whether you're ready is one of life’s big decisions. You're the only one who can, and should, decide. Whether you're thinking about losing your virginity or having sex again, remember the following tips:
How to talk about sex

It’s better to have an embarrassing talk about sex than an embarrassing sexual encounter before you’re ready. There are lots of things to think and talk about, such as:

    are you both ready?
    will you be having sex for the right reasons and not because of peer pressure?

Sex isn’t the only aspect of a relationship, and there are other ways of enjoying each other’s company.

 Discuss what you want and what you don’t want to do. You can do other things that you both like, such as talking, meeting each other’s family and friends, going to gigs or the cinema, doing sport, walking, and listening to music.
10 sex questions to ask yourself

You need to have the confidence to work out how you want to respond if sex comes up, and how far to go. Ask yourself if you feel comfortable. Is it the right time, in the right place, and with the right person? Do you really trust the person, and do you feel the same way about one another?

If you think you might have sex, ask yourself the following questions:

    Does it feel right?
    Do I love my partner?
    Does he/she love me just as much?
    Have we talked about using condoms, and was the talk OK?
    Have we got contraception organised to protect against pregnancy?
    Do I feel able to say ‘no’ at any point if I change my mind, and will we both be OK with that?

If you answer yes to all these questions, the time may be right. But if you answer yes to any of the following questions, it might not be:

    Do I feel under pressure from anyone, such as my partner or friends?
    Could I have any regrets afterwards?
    Am I thinking about having sex just to impress my friends or keep up with them?
    Am I thinking about having sex in order to keep my partner?

Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to have sex. Even if you’ve done it once or twice you still need to make sure that your boyfriend or girlfriend is as keen as you each time.
Tips on safer sex

When you decide to have sex, there's the possibility of pregnancy and/or catching a sexually transmitted infection (STI) such as chlamydia. Whoever you're thinking of having sex with, it's important to talk about contraception and condoms before you have sex. Both of you have a responsibility to have this conversation.
Using condoms

You need to use condoms to reduce the risk of catching an STI, whoever you are having sex with.

If you're a boy/girl couple, you need to use an additional form of contraception to prevent an unintended pregnancy.
Choosing the right contraception

There are 15 different kinds of contraception, including the implant, injection, the combined pill and the progestogen-only pill.

Most kinds of contraception are used by girls, but both of you have a responsibility to consider which you will use. A pregnancy will affect both of you.
Lesbian, gay or bisexual couples

If you have lesbian, gay or bisexual sex you can still get or pass on STIs. You still need to know about contraception in case you have straight sex as well.

Find out more about sexual health for women who have sex with women and for men who have sex with men.
How do I bring up the subject of safer sex?

Starting a conversation about the different types of contraception could be a good way to start talking about other issues to do with sex, such as how you feel about it and what you do and don’t want to do.

You could try saying, "I found out that there are 15 different types of contraception…If we were to have sex, which one should we use?"

And researching the options together will help both of you feel more confident and in control of the situation. Find out about the 15 different kinds of contraception.

You can get free and confidential advice about sex, contraception and abortion at any time. Visit your local doctor, community contraceptive clinic, sexual health or genitourinary medicine (GUM) clinic (find your local services) or young persons clinic (call the sexual health helpline on 0300 123 7123 for details) to find out more.
Read the signs that they want sex

Many people are surprised when a situation leads to sex, so learn to read the signs. If someone suggests that you find a quiet place, or makes lots of physcial contact, or suddenly tries to charm and flatter you, they might be thinking about sex, even if you’re not.

You need to decide whether you want to have sex. Don’t let someone else decide for you by just going along with it. Make the decision in advance and stay in control of the situation, especially if you've had alcohol, because you'll be less inhibited.

If you’re not sure that you can stay in control, avoid situations that could lead to sex, such as going to someone’s room or somewhere quiet.
Alcohol or drugs won't help

Many people have sex or lose their virginity when they’re drunk. After a few drinks, you're more likely to lose your judgement, and you may do things that you wouldn't do normally. You may regret your actions in the morning, and you won't be able to undo what you’ve done.

People are more likely to have sex without a condom when they're drunk. This can lead to an STI or unintended pregnancy.

Find out more about sex, alcohol and keeping safe.
Sex and the law

The law says that it's legal for you to consent (agree) to sex from the age of 16. If you're under 16, you can get confidential contraceptive and sexual health services, including abortions. You can get free condoms from some GPs, community contraceptive or young persons clinics, and Brook Advisory Centres.

If you're under 13, the situation is different because the law says that you can’t consent to sex at this age.


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Women's Libido Pill Faces Skepticism After Approval

Some health professionals are reacting with more enthusiasm than others about the first approved drug aimed at increasing women's sexual desire. Known generically as flibanserin and sold under the brand name Addyi, the medication could be prescribed as early as Oct.17, said Sprout Pharmaceuticals, the company that developed the so-called "little pink pill." Many have compared Addyi to Viagra, the medication for men with erectile dysfunction that increases blood flow to the penis. But the new pill for women aims to boost women's libidos by affecting levels of brain chemicals, rather than blood flow. It doesn't get ladies physically ready for sex; rather, it purports to get them mentally ready to do the deed by targeting neurotransmitters in the brain linked to desire, appetite and other sex-related emotions. [51 Sultry Facts About Sex] But some experts aren't sold on this neurological approach to curing low libido. The problem with focusing solely on neurotransmitters' role in sex drive is that a woman's desire to have sex isn't linked only to chemicals in the brain, said Kristen Carpenter, a psychologist and director of Women's Behavioral Health at The Ohio State University's Wexner Medical Center. Sexual desire is a "multifaceted phenomenon," Carpenter said. And although Addyi may help a subset of women, it won't improve the sex lives of all women who have low libido, said Carpenter, who provides therapy for many women with low libido. "I don't think this will be a magic bullet," she said. "Sexual desire is a largely psychological phenomenon, which is why it's important that a [medication] that acts centrally on the brain be a part of treatment. But it is a nuanced experience, and a pill only addresses one piece of that." Not for everyone Sprout Pharmaceuticals doesn't claim that Addyi will amp up the libidos of all women, just certain women. The FDA approved the drug specifically for use by premenopausal women who have been diagnosed with hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD), a condition that means they not only have low levels of desire, but also feel bothered by it. According to the company, approximately one in three women in the United States has low sexual desire, and about one in 10 women feels distressed about it. That translates to 16 million ladies who potentially have HSDD, and the company says that Addyi could potentially help the 4.8 million of those women who are premenopausal. Doctors screen women for HSDD using a test that has five basic questions, but in order to be diagnosed with the condition, all other potential causes of low libido must first be ruled out, said Dr. Risa Kagan, an obstetrician gynecologist and clinical professor at the University of California, San Francisco. The list of other potential causes of low sex drive includes depression, use of certain medications (like antidepressants and painkillers), alcohol and drug use, pregnancy, pain during intercourse, stress, and dissatisfaction with one's partner. These must all be crossed off before a diagnosis of HSDD can be made. Still, other factors that contribute to low desire might not get ruled out during the screening process for HDSS. For example, aging, lack of sleep and headaches have all been shown in studies to decrease sex drive in women, and none of these causes of low libido is explicitly included in the screening questionnaire. Carpenter said figuring out which women actually have HSDD is going to be tricky for doctors, who often fail to spend more than a few minutes with a patient at a time. In her own psychology practice, Carpenter said, she has assumed some patients had HSDD, but later learned (typically during therapy) that their low libido was actually caused by sexual trauma. "That is something this medication won't help with," she said. If a doctor does not develop a relationship with a patient, or thoroughly learn their history, they may not know whether there is another cause of a woman's low libido. Indeed, Kagan, who was an investigator for clinical trials of flibanserin when the drug was in development, said that screening a woman for HSDD can take a long time — about 90 minutes, in her experience. In an effort to help doctors diagnose women, Sprout has created a presentation about the condition that doctors must watch, and pass a test on, before they can prescribe or dispense Addyi , Kagan said. But there's one more problem: Not all medical professionals agree that HSDD is a condition that needs to be treated. Dysfunctional disorder "Sex is a very emotional response for women, and so we've gotten to the point where we're developing emotional-response drugs to get women to have sex, and that's a slippery slope," Dr. Elizabeth Kavaler, a urologist at Lenox Hill Hospital in New York City, told Live Science. Not being in the mood for sex, or not being that into sex in general, is perfectly normal, Kavaler said. Carpenter made a similar point, saying that low libido is not necessarily a medical condition that needs to be treated with medication. "Maybe, for some subset of people, medication might be helpful. But it's also the case that desire just doesn't fall out of the sky," said Carpenter, who added that she often instructs women on the other ways to increase sex drive without medication (like slipping on some sexy underwear or engaging in sexual fantasy). Kagan said that women who don't want to have sex — because they are exhausted, or have a headache or just don't like having sex — should not be prescribed Addyi. A lack of desire is just one element of HSDD, the condition that Addyi is designed to treat. "[HSDD] is a state of mind. It's somebody who had an appetite, and they want to want it back again," she said. Brain-imaging studies, including a small one published in the journal Neuroscience in 2009, have suggested that women with HSDD are wired a bit differently than women without the condition, Kagan said. The 2009 study showed that the brains of women with no history of sexual dysfunction had a different way of processing "arousing stimuli" than the brains of women who had HSDD. Among the 36 participants, the researchers found that these two groups varied in how they remembered past erotic events. But more research is needed in this area in order for scientists to figure out just how desire works in women's brains. 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Sexual health

Healthy Lifestyle
Sexual health

What you can do to maintain a healthy and enjoyable sex life as you grow older.
By Mayo Clinic Staff

As you age, sex isn't the same as it was in your 20s — but it can still be satisfying. Contrary to common myths, sex isn't just for the young. Many seniors continue to enjoy their sexuality into their 80s and beyond. A healthy sex life not only is fulfilling, but also is good for other aspects of your life, including your physical health and self-esteem.

As men age, testosterone levels decline and changes in sexual function are common. These physiological changes can include:

    A need for more stimulation to achieve and maintain erection and orgasm
    Shorter orgasms
    Less forceful ejaculation and less semen ejaculated
    Longer time needed to achieve another erection after ejaculation

You may feel some anxiety about these changes, but remember they don't have to end your enjoyment of sex. Adapting to your changing body can help you maintain a healthy and satisfying sex life. For example, you may need to adjust your sexual routine to include more stimulation to become aroused.

Your health can have a big impact on your sex life and sexual performance. Poor health or chronic health conditions, such as heart disease or arthritis, make sex and intimacy more challenging. Certain surgeries and many medications, such as blood pressure medications, antihistamines, antidepressants and acid-blocking drugs, can affect sexual function.

But don't give up. You and your partner can experiment with ways to adapt to your limitations. For example, if you're worried about having sex after a heart attack, talk with your doctor about your concerns. If arthritis pain is a problem, try different sexual positions or try using heat to alleviate joint pain before or after sexual activity.

Stay positive and focus on ways of being sexual and intimate that work for you and your partner.

At any age, emotional issues can affect your sexuality. Many older couples report greater satisfaction with their sex life because they have fewer distractions, more time and privacy, and no worries about pregnancy.

On the other hand, some older adults feel stressed by health problems, financial concerns and other lifestyle changes. Depression can decrease your desire for and interest in sex. If you feel you might be depressed, talk to your doctor or a counselor.

Sex may not be the same for you or your partner as it was when you were younger. But sex and intimacy can continue to be a rewarding part of your life. Here are some tips for maintaining a healthy and enjoyable sex life:

    Talk with your partner. Even if it's difficult to talk about sex, openly sharing your needs, desires and concerns can help you both enjoy sex and intimacy more.
    Visit your doctor. Your doctor can help you manage chronic conditions and medications that affect your sex life. If you have trouble maintaining an erection, ask your doctor about treatments.
    See a sex therapist. A therapist may be able to help you and your partner with specific concerns. Ask your doctor for a referral.

    Expand your definition of sex. Intercourse is only one way to have a fulfilling sex life. Touching, kissing and other intimate contact can be rewarding for you and your partner.

    As you age, it's normal for you and your partner to have different sexual abilities and needs. Be open to finding new ways to enjoy sexual contact and intimacy.

    Adapt your routine. Simple changes can improve your sex life. Change the time of day you have sex to a time when you have the most energy. Try the morning — when you're refreshed from a good night's sleep — rather than at the end of a long day.

    Because it might take longer for you or your partner to become aroused, take more time to set the stage for romance. Try a new sexual position or explore other ways of connecting romantically and sexually.

    Don't give up on romance. If you've lost your partner, it can be difficult to imagine starting another relationship — but socializing is well worth the effort for many single seniors. No one outgrows the need for emotional closeness and intimacy.

    If you start an intimate relationship with a new partner, use a condom. Many older adults are unaware that they are still at risk of sexually transmitted infections, such as herpes and gonorrhea.

One final piece of advice for maintaining a healthy sex life: Take care of yourself and stay as healthy as you can. Eat a healthy diet, stay active, don't drink too much alcohol, and don't smoke or use illegal drugs. See your doctor regularly, especially if you have chronic health conditions or take prescription medications.


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